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November 28, 2010

Where Oh Where Would the Dairy Farmer's Wedding Band Be?

It was a very cold day here on the dairy on Thanksgiving morning.  Down right frosty.  The day went on just as any normal day would, Dominic went out to feed and take care of the cows and calves and I stayed in, stoked up the fire and then prepared some appetizers to take to my sister's for Thanksgiving.

Pretty soon, it was time to drive over to my sister's for the afternoon and later, dinner.  Dominic stayed home to finish feeding and caring for the cows and eventually showed up at 6 pm or so.

"How'd your afternoon go?"

"Not good" {okay, those weren't is exact words}

"Oh?  What happened?"

and that's when he lifted his left hand wiggling his ring finger. 

One platinum wedding band......gone!  It's been seven years since he first put that wedding band on and has worn it to work every day, without a problem, until this cold, frigid Thanksgiving day. 

The wedding band could be amidst the straw in the calf barn is a good possibility.

An even better possibility would be was cold after all, and little calves make good finger warmers.   Dominic must have missed my post titled "How to Survive a Trip to the Calf Barn".  
Actually, Dominic trains the calves to drink milk out of  a bucket by letting them suck his fingers while submerged in the bucket of milk.  Or, if a calf needs to be moved to a different area of the barn, you let her suck your fingers and she'll follow along anywhere.

Maybe 100 years from now, someone will find that ring.  But for now, the platinum wedding band will be replaced by this Titanium band that I've ordered from  It looks almost identical to the original platinum {except $1,100 dollars less}.  Maybe I should have bought two, one for a backup.  No, I'm confident this $31.99 Titanium ring will last a lifetime.

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Ocean Breezes and Country Sneezes said...

Oh, this happened to us, my hubby lost his in the North Atlantic two years ago - we were so sad. He had it for 14 years. I'm sure someone with a metal detector will find it and our little message inside his ring. Thankfully it was insured and he now has a new one that he DOES NOT wear in the North Atlantic! I hope your husband finds his!

BigD said...

My husband lost his about 5 years ago when we went fly fishing in the Cherokee River in NC. Someday, some fisherman will come up lucky!
The funny part was our daughters, who were 5 and 7 at the time, cried because they didn't think we were married anymore!
They even asked if a policeman saw us kissing if we'd get arrested!!!!
Oh, for the days when life was that simple!!!

Have you tried a metal detector? If yours is anything like our place, no telling what else you'll find, too!

Nancy Grossi ~ Churned In Cali ~ The Wife of a Dairyman said...

@Ocean Breezes, apparently this seems to happen quite frequently to men, it seems!

@BigD, How funny is that, that your daughters thought you weren't married any longer!
And I would love to get my hands on a metal detector, maybe I could rent one. What an adventure that would be with the kids!

Elise said...

Oh, HONEY! Your poor hubby! {And possibly calf with a belly ache, or 6 or 7! - How many stomachs do they have?} hee hee I'm SO sorry for you guys! My hubby has always been SO paranoid about wearing his ring to work! He bought a cheapy just in case, but the best yet, we have some friends who just got a mini tattoo on the ring finger, just so they didn't have to buy another one! I hope, hope, hope you find it! xoxo!

Ren- Lady Of The Arts said...

Oh what a bummer- glad you found a replacement.
Dr. J and I both lost our rings in the first year- we were living in the Caribbean and the sand, ocean, unfamiliarity of wearing them... both gone. They were made by one of my girlfriends and she still has the molds so we figured we could always make new ones- Funny thing is it's been ten years and we never have. I wear my rock and he wears nothing- he doesn't like to wear jewelry and as a physician he needs to wash his hands so often. I don't mind that he doesn't wear one- I'm pretty sure he talks about his beautiful wife and monkeys all the time.

Sofia's Ideas said...

Oh, that stinks! :(

Anonymous said...

He did good to go 7 years. I think my hubby made it 4 before he lost his in a pile of silage. I did the exact same thing you did. Got him a Wal-mart $30 replacement. Which he then lost this year in the grain pit....*sigh* There's worse things that could happen, so I guess I'll look on the bright side and if all I have to do is buy $30 rings for the rest of my life, I'll be doing good. :)

The Weaver of Grass said...

My friend's brother lost a ring in a field near their home. Almost eight years to the day she dug it up in the same spot. So keep your eyes open - particularly near the calf pats!

ann said...

I had the same problem Lost my wedding ring in Oct and found it with a metal detector with a jewelry setting I had insurance but didn't want to file a claim. Hope with helps you. My was in the leaves in the yard

Nancy Grossi ~ Churned In Cali ~ The Wife of a Dairyman said...

Wow! Apparently losing a wedding ring is a VERY common thing! And yes, I agree @iafarmwife, there are much worse things that could happen....buying replacement rings...not so bad:)

Mary said...

I am sorry for the loss. I lost the diamond out of my engagement band because I was working in the cold and did not feel it when it got caught on something. When I noticed the finger, it was bleeding where the band had pulled into the skin.

However, I also want to say I am glad that is all he lost because our wedding bands do create a danger to us. Many farmers do not wear a wedding band to work because it can get caught so badly that they loose their fingers. Tim Cook, MD at Riverside Methodist Hospital's Hand and Reattachment Center in Columbus Ohio has presented a number of times on my request to audiences of farmers about the risk of amputated fingers, hands, and arms. Because so much of our work is physical and involves sharp tools and equipment, we have a much higher risk than other workers. At one time a nurse on the unit said over 50 % of their patients were farmers, though I don't know current statistics.

Mary F.
Agricultural Health Nurse

Samantha said...

Oh, I am sorry that sucks! I have a similar story: my husband lost his wedding band (no joke) two weeks after we got back from our honeymoon when he was picking up hay with the bale wagon. It was at night and he thinks he lost in while he was out turning a bale over or something--who knows. Anyway--he searched forever and we ended up just buying a new one.

Tina | My Life as a Mrs said...

Hey Nancy! Just saw your post over on Sabrina's site- just wanted to stop by and say hey! It was great meeting you at Foodbuzz Fest! :)

Kathleen von Raesfeld said...

Yes, I think this is a common thing - please tell Dominic we are feeling his pain! Steve has lost 1 in 16 years but there were plenty of times when it went missing for long periods of time. I can not complain too much, however, because frequently it was when he was doing dishes at MY family's holiday gatherings! I can take you to the jewelry market in SF if you want to replace it at wholesale! That's where I ended up!

Marc @ NoRecipes said...

I don't have nearly as good of an excuse for losing my band, but let's just say I asked the mrs for a cheap band to begin with because I knew i'd lose it. I'll have to bookmark that titanium one for next time!

Nancy Grossi ~ Churned In Cali ~ The Wife of a Dairyman said...

@Kathleen, you guys too huh?

@Marc, I beginning to see how common this is. Wondering if men lose more of them than women!

Pat Tillett said...

I hope he finds it! I'm not sure if you saw this or not, I lost mine a while back. here's a fun little story about it...

Nancy Grossi ~ Churned In Cali ~ The Wife of a Dairyman said...

@Pat, Yep, I actually thought of you after I found out he lost it....I remember your grand daughter found it right?! Years later?
Maybe there's hope!